Tuesday, May 19, 2009
What to do?
Existing client's case is now in a position to discuss parenting time. The decision to have a four-way is easily hurdled. Getting husband and wife in the same room and sometimes the same building to discuss a resolution to their marital discord is not always easy. So the day comes when the parties and their attorneys come to the table to discuss alternatives to divorcing amicably. It is time to discuss parenting schedules, and your client, who you know is too busy and really just not interested in spending time with the children, now asserts a demand for more parenting time. What to do?
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Burke v. Burke, a recent Tennessee Court of Appeals case urges litigants to adopt the logic of Judge Haas of Walker, Minnesota, when raising children of divorce. Judge Haas states:
ReplyDelete"Your children have come into this world because of the two of you. Perhaps you two made lousy choices as to whom you decided to be the other parent. If so, that is your problem and your fault."
"No matter what you think of the other party -- or what your family thinks of the other party -- those children are one-half each of you. Remember that, because every time you tell your child what an idiot his father is, or what a fool his mother is, or how bad the absent parent is, or what terrible things that person has done, you are telling the child that half of him is bad. That is an unforgivable thing to do to a child."
"That is not love; it is possession. If you do that to your children, you will destroy them as surely as if you had cut them into pieces, because that is what you are doing to their emotions. I sincerely hope you don't do that to your children. Think more about your children and less of yourselves, and make yours a selfless kind of love, not foolish or selfish, or they will suffer."